Even way back when, my boy Shakespeare had us guys pigeon holed:
Then a soldier,
Full of strange oaths and bearded like the pard,
Jealous in honor, sudden and quick in quarrel,
Seeking the bubble reputation
Even in the cannon’s mouth.
The above quote from Shakespeare’s 7 ages of man is 100% truth.
The context is about men being at a stage in their life playing their role of ‘soldier’
a period of life when you start taking your job very seriously
and you dedicate yourself to a cause,
whether it be the protection of the nation,
or simply the upkeep of your family.
We make these everyday ‘I’ll start Monday’ or ‘One day I will…’
Olde English speak for a Leopard – egotistical and temperamental in nature
and never changing his spots…
^^^ read: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome!
‘jealous in honour, sudden and quick in quarrel’
Proud of our honour we like to play the robust man card
yet behind closed doors we flare up for the smallest of things
angry, weak, inflamed and unhealthy…
‘Seeking the bubble reputation. Even in the cannon’s mouth.’
A bubble is quick to rise and easy to burst. In the cannon’s mouth
is in the face of danger. Reminds me of how we live our ‘mini-celebrity’
lives on flakebook and twatter, craving likes comments and shares
despite hating what it does to us.
Question is, what do you do about it?
Well, you can cry about it and carry on
A waste of time in my humble (but accurate) opinion.
Or, you can learn from the experience and either profit from the
knowledge or at least use it to protect your gluteus assimus in the
Start making good on your’ strange oaths’
Incorporate daily stress relief as routine practice so you are no longer ‘quick in quarrel’
Use social media sparingly and actually have experiences instead of watching them.
(be interesting to find out how much time we spent on there daily)
Step out of the Shakespearean stereotype…
or learn the hard way
“wisdom and experience doesn’t come cheap”
In fact, it always comes with a price.
Often a very *expensive* price.
(In terms of money, pain, anxiety, failure, etc).
But, you just learned a valuable lesson, babycakes.
And you can now apply it to your life.
(And use it to help others, too.)
Do with this info what ye will.
I’ve made lots of mistakes.
Too many to count.
And, I’ve learned from them all.
A lot of that knowledge I pour into “The Tough Love Project”.
Want to find out more?
Get on the phone with me and let’s talk:
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Paul ‘Soldier Boy’ Love