Thank F**K It’s Friday, right?
Even though I work on Saturdays but Friday still gives me a wicked buzz of excitement – think it’s from my GCSE days when Friday night in Macey’s, Kiss, Bonkers and Masters down the Bigg Market was my absolute favourite part of the week!
As I was sitting getting my buzz on I started to read through the multitude of questions I’ve been getting recently and as always a common theme was emerging and it gave me the idea for this post – hope you like it 😉
3 Mistakes you didn’t know you were making…
1. You’re a Closed Book!
Yeh, yeh, I know, we are all super smart, highly tuned athletes who know it all, and if you are anything like me you won’t be told otherwise.
I see this mistake almost every time a new client starts with us, as soon as they read through their food plan the guard goes up as they feel like their very way of life is under attack, it’s only natural.
Or, after meeting a new people I’m a social environment and being asked what I do for a living which is inevitably followed by an in depth food and exercise history (something that everybody loves to do btw) and I duly offer some free professional advice as to a possible better or easier option, as I feel it only polite to do so, they instantly become defensive of their ways.
The thing is we often explain our misgivings in life, not as confessions but as a way of seeking approval so that we can continue in our faux pas.
So if on a night out you hear me saying I’m a quantity surveyor you will understand the reason why 😉
One of the hardest obstacles for clients embarking on their fat loss journey is their unwillingness to accept that what they have been doing until now isn’t ok.
I will nearly always hear the words:
‘Oh, I drink plenty of water!’
‘But I read in a magazine that 2 glasses of wine a night are good for you’
‘When do I get a cheat meal?’
So, without further ado buddy, please accept that the likelihood is that you aren’t drinking anywhere near enough of the miracle juice!
2 glasses of wine may have some benefits, when it comes to improving your physique they will slow you down!
You have been eating cheat meals every night for most of your life thus far, so your bank account of cheat is full!
If changing shape is your goal then remember to open your mind to new methods and accept that the reason you are looking for answers is that you don’t currently have them!
Remember that every individual is exactly that, INDIVIDUAL. There are many ways to skin a cat and if you don’t have a knife then you will have to use your hands (I just made that bit up, can you tell).
You may have to change your path more than once to find the correct route. Pay attention to how certain foods and eating habits make you feel, change small things that are manageable and you will find your holy grail.
2. Not Eating Enough!
This is a quick fire round so here we go:
We got Fat in the 80’s! Here are a couple of the hangovers from the 80’s that keep us from shedding lard:
“I’m watching my portion control…”
If portion control and calories in vs calories out was the answer improving our mid section then eating 3000 calories of ice cream would be the same as eating 3000 calories of broccoli, wouldn’t it?
What about when you’ve cut your calories and you drop some pounds, in the process slowing your metabolism, and the inevitable plateau hits – how do you lose more weight then?
Well by cals in vs cals out method you would reduce food intake further or increase exercise, right?
And then when you plateau again how do you move on? When does it stop? How about taking calories into the negative and seeing how healthy that is?
Make sure that your food is ‘one word food’ and eat as much as you can without having to worry about numbers. You will struggle to overeat as it is packed with all the goodness and energy the brain and body needs making you feel satiated – beef, chicken, fish, eggs, oil, butter, avocado, broccoli, spinach, kale… you get the picture all foods that have one word as the ingredients. The calorie equation does play a role but it is way down on the list of priorities!
“If I’m getting fat then I will simply stop eating fat and the weight gain will stop, won’t it?”
All fats aren’t born equal – fats in their natural state are essential to hormone regulation and vitamin transportation!
Yeh, hormone regulation!
What, you don’t know what that is?
Of course you don’t and most Pt’s and Nutritionists only started talking about it and it’s importance for fat loss in the last 5 years.
Very simply put our internal operating system runs on chemicals that change our body to suit different environments and stimulus. Hunger, stress, growth, energy and any other possible human emotion or function, all governed by hormones.
They are basically super dooper important to how we exist.
So how do we make sure they are ‘regulated’?
Well, they are formed from amino acids (the building blocks of protein), from cholesterol or phospholipids!
So whadda thadda mean Paolo?
On the most simple of levels, if you want to regulate the hormones so that your body stands any chance of thriving in a society which should have it fleeing for the hills then SLEEP at least 8 hours per night, EAT FATS and PROTEIN and plenty of them so that your endocrine system stands a fighting chance.
On another level fat is extremely tasty! So when it is removed from our food what do you think is used to replace it?
Sugars and neurotoxins, are on me!
I’ve posted an amazing 18 minute video on the obesity epidemic and how the demonisation of fat in the 70’s and the promotion of high sugar foods has ruined our metabolisms – it’s over on our Facebook fan page, click here. Check it out BUT come right back cos the biggest mistake is yet to come.
3. You Live in Constant Threat!
We have all heard of the fight, flight or freeze response – incase you haven’t they are the body’s automatic, go to, responses to THREAT! It is a survival mechanism that will save or end your life!
In immediate threat, the body will do what it can to protect itself. It will stop it moving, get it away from danger or directly combat the threat. That adrenaline rush you feel doesn’t happen by accident, the heart rate increases to increase blood flow to the necessary muscles, pupils dilate to allow for more visual awareness, in fact all our senses up regulate so that we are ready to act on the potential danger.
What a clever little human you are!
BUT what if the body felt it was constantly under threat? A constant bombardment from all of life’s stressors work stress, financial stress, emotional stress, nutritional stress, exercise stress (didn’t expect that one did you but yes even exercise is a stress!), technological stress, lack of sleep, the list goes on!
How do you keep those senses heightened to deal with everthing?
What about keeping your heart rate up?
How does the body keep going with this load?
The answer is…
Eventually something is going to give!
Ever heard of burn out?
However, there is a plus side, at the other end of the spectrum lies the THRIVE mechanism. When all our ducks are in a row and we are happy, and free from threat, the body allows itself to relax and grow.
It is a neurological fact that you can’t thrive if you are in a state of threat ie. fight, flight or freeze!
If you want to grow muscle, lose fat, improve performance, reduce blood pressure, improve sleep, make babies or more importantly live a disease free life – then you need to reduce the threat of everyday life to the body by doing things that make you feel good!
In short live your life!
Stop focussing on things that are so far out of your reach that your attention is never focussed on the miracles that happen everyday.
This is something that I am trying to implement more and more in my life. One of the first changes I am making is to turn my phone and internet off at 5pm every day with no exceptions!
I want to enjoy the miracles of my every day that are my children! The longer we are checking our phones for likes and followers, responding to messages that could wait till morning and posting status’ that have no real meaning, the more we miss of each and every day and as such the more we miss of time spent in thrive!
Having smaller goals which we can achieve more frequently makes for increased positive brain chemistry and more time spent in thrive!
I’ve just come from a beautiful service that was very emotional for all there. A friend of our family had died very tragically at the young age of 30 which had gathered all who had known him from past and present to a packed out cathedral.
I don’t think you can ever say that a funeral is wonderful but the strength and warmth that was radiating around the cathedral was an amazing testament to the family and their love.
It was clear to everyone there that Simon had loved and lived his life to the max thriving in both work and at home, even at such a young age.
BUT what if he had spent his life buried in a job he hated working for that promotion to another job that he hated?
What if he hadn’t loved, laughed, played and been happy?
What if he didn’t thrive?
Live life and enjoy it, the rewards will sneak up on you without even noticing!
Paul ‘Loving Life & Thriving’ Love
Ps. Tim Minchin describes the idea of ‘not having a goal’ perfectly in this 11min video of his 9 Rules for Life.
Take the time to watch it. I guarantee it will make you smile and rethink a few things…