Ever heard the saying ‘Breakups Make Bodybuilders’?
Amazing how the thought of being selected out of the crowd,
primarily on the way you look,
gives you that extra push to make those gym sessions.
Whether you are willing to accept it or not
in the dating game first impressions count,
and if you want to give the impression
of someone who gives a shit about them-self
then losing weight and looking good
is often given top priority.
No shock is it? People go to the gym to improve how they look and/or feel
because they believe that is a sure fire way to picking up their next mate…
Plus as a general rule singletons have more time and less distractions.
BUT is the opposite true?
We all want to be desired and have the ability to attract
the attention of as many people as possible.
Compliments feel good don’t they?
It’s a mammalian and primal instinct to be wanted by others!
But does having a partner give you a comfort blanket?
In the back of your head, there is a voice that gets you out of doing the hard work
by giving you a path of least resistance.
‘they are gonna love me no matter what I look like’,
‘they love me for being me and me right now me,
is all over getting fat on wine, pizza and ice cream’,
‘I could go to the gym but I could also go home and share a bottle of wine,
because that’s the loving thing to do’ <— classic BS
^^^ Despite whether or not this is the right thing
to think of your partner and your relationship,
this is the reality…
‘Relationshipers’ need a different focus in my modest, honest and accurate opinion.
If your primary focus is to look better for other people
especially when you already have a partner
then why would going to the gym ever win over sofa, film takeaway and wine?
Do you think it might be a different story if going to the gym meant
building strength, practicing new movement patterns,
challenging yourself to achieve new things?
^^^ What do you think one of the MAIN sides effects doing this might be?
Worth a thought…
Paul ‘aching from new things’ Love